“There are two sides to every story.” Oh , just how many times have we heard this thing but the truth of these words often leaves most of us shocked in reality. We judge on what we know and personal bias and declare the two sides as black and white. But is it ever possible for something good to happen if we ignore their shades of grey?
Welcome to Narrating The Dream and this time I turn my mind to this simple fact of this multi-faceted life that compels us to just open our eyes and be more realistic.
Let’s do a show of hands. (Not that anyone else can see you.) How many of you have ever judged a situation on how it seemed/the story presented by one side?
You know your answer but know that you are not alone. If you are not the judgemental, good for you. You are inspiring for others and you should share the secrets with the others. If you are one of the judgemental ones, take heart in the fact that majority of the people stand with you in this category.
Lots of times, we are all guilty of this. We all judge the situation based on the side we are biased towards or are more easily able to relate to, even though the situation could be absolutely different from what we imagined it to be. We rarely dare to get the story of the other side (the one that we deem as guilty) so instead of understanding the two sides, we just work on assumptions we had.
And then we have the truth exposed to us if we are lucky and find more often than not that it is so far from what we imagined that joining the two ideas in any way is an impossibility. But what is certain that you will have burned bridges with the misunderstood one and there will be no way to manipulate the situation into making it seem that you are not the bad person among the two. It feels like an insult to the one misjudged and we appear the judgmental person we are actually being.
So, in a way that makes it all funny, you find that, despite being the third party in the situation, you will suffer the most among the three.
The way forward is obvious: to change. Is change possible? As always, yes, but it does take an effort. I cannot recall any methodology right off my head but there is no way there isn’t a guide on internet.
So are you the one who looks at only side of the coin or one that observes them both?