There are several people who come in our lives and help us shape ourselves and our futures. These people are our parents, school faculty, college professors, friends, significant other, bosses and colleagues, and even complete strangers. Undoubtedly then, we can group under the singular heading of ‘The Teachers’.
Welcome to this newest post of Narrating The Dream and here is the time for a tribute to the people who make us… well, everything that we are. Continue reading
More than we would ever like to admit, we get unreasonably angry at someone or something. There is no way to be able to explain why to others but it feels justified to others. And it takes only some self-reflection to understand why it is so: the anger turns out to be misdirected.
Welcome to the newest post of Narrating The Dream and this time, the topic is of misdirected anger and how we would rather ignore the actual root of this anger.
There is a common impression that kids turn rebellious in their teens and best thing to do is to let them ride it out. This is the most common example of misdirected anger when they lash out at the one person they believe can let go at with ease. They have their frustrations and feel stuck and unproductive in life.
Why do people misdirected their anger? Well, it is not because they like lashing out, anyone can tell you that. My best guess is that we misdirected our anger, unknowingly of course, because we don’t really want to know that this way of living life has brought on some regrets to us in the present day. To accept them is to accept the blame that we didn’t live life to the fullest.
Majority of cases of misdirected anger are, in fact, cases of turning anger at oneself towards others. Arising due to a range of negative emotions like jealousy, guilt, self-doubt, incompetence, etc., we let these frustrations bottle up within until the bottle bursts and they all come rushing out. And there is a very likely consequence of this explosion that your relationships will be strained. Then, even though you are supposed to be relaxing with them, you will be uncomfortable among those close to you.
What should be done then? Saying that you need to confront your feelings takes only a few seconds but doing it is another matter entirely. I do not preach I know the right way but I can guess that it requires one to sit in silence in a room without any distractions and a firm desire to work things out with yourself. Who knows, maybe you will figure out some forgotten desires of your own or even maybe your next objective? Maybe even an attempt of journal writing would be of help. If you have someone willing to be by your side, you can have them help you as your personal cheerleader.
So are you prone to the misdirected anger or have you dealt with the issues? Have you got any way to suggest to get rid of this misdirected anger and confront what’s within? Please sound off below.
We all have our guiding stars in our lives. They may be a person we know well, a person we may be related to or a person we admire from afar. They are the one constant thing in our lives, always shining high and bright above us and we derive comfort in the fact that no matter what happens, they will remain constant in their position and be always there to (knowingly or not) guide us. But sometimes, life makes us remember that this person is too a human being who makes mistakes and so the star fades away, turning out to be just another memory of a distant past that might not even seem real anymore.
Welcome to Narrating The Dream and this time, I am here for my words on the fall of ‘The Northern Star’. Continue reading
“There are two sides to every story.” Oh , just how many times have we heard this thing but the truth of these words often leaves most of us shocked in reality. We judge on what we know and personal bias and declare the two sides as black and white. But is it ever possible for something good to happen if we ignore their shades of grey?
Welcome to Narrating The Dream and this time I turn my mind to this simple fact of this multi-faceted life that compels us to just open our eyes and be more realistic.
Let’s do a show of hands. (Not that anyone else can see you.) How many of you have ever judged a situation on how it seemed/the story presented by one side?
You know your answer but know that you are not alone. If you are not the judgemental, good for you. You are inspiring for others and you should share the secrets with the others. If you are one of the judgemental ones, take heart in the fact that majority of the people stand with you in this category.
Lots of times, we are all guilty of this. We all judge the situation based on the side we are biased towards or are more easily able to relate to, even though the situation could be absolutely different from what we imagined it to be. We rarely dare to get the story of the other side (the one that we deem as guilty) so instead of understanding the two sides, we just work on assumptions we had.
And then we have the truth exposed to us if we are lucky and find more often than not that it is so far from what we imagined that joining the two ideas in any way is an impossibility. But what is certain that you will have burned bridges with the misunderstood one and there will be no way to manipulate the situation into making it seem that you are not the bad person among the two. It feels like an insult to the one misjudged and we appear the judgmental person we are actually being.
So, in a way that makes it all funny, you find that, despite being the third party in the situation, you will suffer the most among the three.
The way forward is obvious: to change. Is change possible? As always, yes, but it does take an effort. I cannot recall any methodology right off my head but there is no way there isn’t a guide on internet.
So are you the one who looks at only side of the coin or one that observes them both?